Caring for two sets of aging parents.
We have all four .our parents age 90,87,85,84 My parents were alot of care and were not in a safe place or situation. My dad fell and this help to make the decision to go into assisted living and it is working very well. Now we have more time to do fun things with them. My husband parents are needing alot of care, his father is falling alot and has dementia and depression. They refuss to go to assisted living and exspect my husband to care for them, he is their assisted living and he fills that is what he should do.Our relationship has suffered because of it. I have resentment and try to be understanding, but also feel it is unfair the responiblity they put on him. Some days I feel that I am at the bottom of his list. I feel guilt for feeling this way. I know it is alot. on his shoulder and I should not feel is way. We are both retired but can't enjoy it. Comments would be helpful. I can't talk to my husband he becomes defensive.