Caring for my widower Dad.
Hi! My mom passed away 8 months ago and I have now had to take over the job of taking care of my father. Mom did everything, as far as running the house, even though her body was giving out. She was the "brains", so to speak and dad was the "muscle". She told him what to do & when to do it. Now that she's gone, I am his only go-to person (an only child). I go through his mail, pay his bills, order his meds, go to appointments with him. He had three horrible months until we got him diagnosed with depression and he has improved since being on meds. I don't mind helping him, but I would like him to try a little bit more to do things. He cleans, does laundry and minimally cooks, so he's doing some stuff. Sometimes I just feel like I have to keep him entertained & find myself driving the 60 miles roundtrip a few times a week to cook for him and visit. It's a strain on my marriage and is starting to really wear me down. Anyone else been in this situation? My mom's last coherent words were "Who will take care of your father?". Now I know what she meant. She did a good job of it so I have big shoes to fill. THANKS!