Caring for mother-in-law with Vascular Dementia.
I am currently caring for my mother in law 88 years old with. Vascular dementia and getting progressively worse. Seems I've been chosen to do so when I became unemployed then disabled 4 yrs ago. Since then have 3 surgeries two major. I am pretty sure I'm heading for caregiver burnout, have major health problems under doctors care. No one (his sisters) seem to care only that I'm here to care for MIL 24/7. One SIL doesn't even work! They come maybe twice or so a month to sit with my MIL and occasionally bath her. I do ALL the physical work. I've almost left my husband twice because of the strain. My husband helps when he gets home but hates to ask for help. They all have terrible communication problems. Last argu ment my husband and I had was bad. Because of the fact my youngest daughter lives her with her baby and husband and me not working I feel obligated. He's holding that over my head with them living here. But my health and nerves are deteriorating and with my sanity. My MIL is getting more and more difficult to deal with my husband will not put her in a facility, nor her insurance doesn't pay for in home healthcare. My husband said if I do not want to watch my mother in law then he would have to hire someone but hecan only offer room and board, so where does that leave my daughter and grandchild?.