I Don't Know What to Do Anymore. I'm 24. I've been helping my mother take care of my grandmother since I was in highschool.
I'm 24. I've been helping my mother take care of my grandmother since I was in highschool (she had a stroke and we found out she was diabetic). For a long time it didn't bother me that my 'job' was to take care of her so that my mother could work to pay the bills.
Recently, a lot of things have changed. We lost our house and my grandfather within the span of about 6 monthes. We now live in his house. She has had some complications with her diabetes that put her in the hospital, but she seems to have recovered for the most part.
The problem is.... frankly, she is a monster to deal with anymore. She demands my mothers attention 24/7. When we go out for the day or even to do shopping, she wants to know exactly when we will be back. Her memory is shot. We tell her things and she can't remember them an hour later. She guilts my mother into doing almost anything she wants, and I am the enemy. Somewhere in her mind, my mother is always choosing me over her. She goads me into fights just so my mother will yell at me if I fight back. Nothing I say is right. I am the little devil monster to her.
I know nothing will change her at this point, and it can only get worse. We use to be a happy family... now? I spend so much time angry or upset. Sometimes, I just want to run away and never look back. I could never do that and leave my mother to do it alone, but still... I have cried more this last year than I think ever before... I just want to be happy....
We've looked into respite care but her medicare won't cover it, and it is just us...
I remember being happy to come home... now I never want to see this place again.