Caring for in-laws in my home. I now find myself dreading being home (sounds harsh, but being honest here) and am depressed.
Both my MIL and FIL have been living with my husband and I for the last year and a half, which has put a tremendous amount of stress on our family and marriage. Soon after moving in with us, they stopped doing for themselves and expect my husband or I to do for them, in just about every way. I cook and clean after them, and have come to resent them in this short period of time for their complete lack of effort to care for/clean up after themselves. Both are in their 80s and have medical issues. I should also add that we all live in a single family home (no in-law), and despite many requests, particularly to my MIL, to maintain boundaries, this has not happened. My husband can dismiss/ignore these “issues”, perhaps in part because they are his parents, but I find myself growing more and more unhappy with my living situation. The purpose of moving them in with us was to avoid placement in an assisted living facility or nursing home. But I now find myself dreading being home (sounds harsh, but being honest here) and am depressed. Has anyone experienced this? I hate to move them out of my house, and feel like I would be the bad guy. But if they stay, my own mental health and marriage suffers.