Caregiving really does affect your marriage.
My husband aired some of his grievances this morning and while many of them were the same ones I have - worries over money, trying to find people who can help with Mom, too far from family - I feel responsible for the situation we are in since it is my mother we are taking care of. I've tried some of the things he has suggested and he doesn't understand why I stopped doing them - like taking Mom to festivals because they are confusing and overwhelming to her, not taking her to church because she is always late in the morning and then when we get there, no one talks to us and I have to escort her everywhere. It's almost worse when your husband makes unhelpful suggestions than when your siblings do.
I feel so sad and defeated.