Mom passed away early this evening and so my caregiving days ended almost as soon as they began. It's only been slightly over 4 months since I moved Mom to Ohio to live with me and now she's gone. Am I sorry I moved her here? Not in a million years would I be sorry...if it had been 4 years or 40 years I still don't think I would be. As imperfect as I was at this "job" I could never regret it in the final analysis. I had time with Mom that I wouldn't have otherwise had and that in itself makes it worth the frustration, exhaustion, and all the other negative things I'd been experiencing.
Even though we only needed it for 1 day, Hospice made everything so much easier on Mom at the end. Just comfort care and a peaceful passing was possible. No heroics and no invasive medical procedures were needed.
This site has been a real eye-opener for me when I thought I was the only one going through this sometimes frustrating, sometimes exhausting and even sometimes comical journey we call caregiving. I want to thank all who have given me insight and advice when I most needed it. Good luck to you all who are making their way and those who are just beginning your own travels through this seemingly never ending maze.
I know my Mom is now peacefully in the arms of her higher power and need never suffer the frailties of the body and mind again.
I know the time will come sooner or later when I say goodbye to him. I hopeI do as well as you and others have in handling your losses.
You are in my prayers.
GardenArtist, thank you but it isn't so much eloquence as it is an honest reflection on my part. You will have your own when the time comes and will find a way to express it.
Countrymouse, It was very consoling for me to write it and I'm thankful if it gives even one of you on here consolation also.
2Whitedoves, Hospice is truly and amazing organization. With their help Mom was able to slip peacefully away and I was able to be there as she drew her last breathe without the struggle of COPD.
So again I thank you all...so much to do even now but in ways I wish I could turn back time.
Your post is quite eloquent and speaks to a level of reflection I hope I can achieve when the time comes. Thank you for sharing your insights and emotions with us.