I don't know how I do it sometimes.
I am a caretaker to my Dad. I get him up in the am before work (full time) and supper at 5 after work and then putting him to bed in the pm, I am taking care of 2 households...paying bills, shopping, cleaning, organizing, trips to the Dr when needed and I have a personal life. It all has been since June. I was too busy at first with all the running around.to start to deal with all of my emotions. Took 3 weeks of my vacation in a 4 month time frame getting him all settled back home. He gets around with a walker but has a lot of trouble with his numb and stiff fingers. I went though alot of emotions as far as anger because I didn't chose to do this and I have 1 sibling who lives as close to my dad as I do ( live in the country, same road) but has not been up there since July. I am frustrated and and everyone keeps telling me just hang in there. (easy for them to say) I can hire a worker when I need to but that is limited because there are bills to pay. I just really don't want to do this for very long but Dad is not ready to go to the nursing home. I never thought I could do personal care work like I do with him and deal with unexpected accidents (especially when I have to go to work). I know I am doing what is important and my Dad is very grateful but I just want my own life back.