I'm a caregiver to my Mom (78).
She has COPD, osteoporosis, high blood pressure, reoccurring UTI's and her mobility not very good she has to rely on a walker to get around. She lives downstairs in an apartment which is just a few steps from my living area. She is never happy and her health problems scare me. She is in hospital now for the 3rd time since July with a UTI. The doctor said it is very bad with white blood cell count of 23 up from 14 which she had last time. She was sick for 4 weeks and wouldn't get out of bed. I want my mom to go into a nursing home or ALF. I'm very depressed having her here. She has homecare Monday through Friday 8-3 so I have to do everything else for her when I get home from work and on weekends. I can come and go but I still have to be back to make sure I give her dinner and supper on weekends. I'm only 46 and I feel like its not fair to have to be looking after my mother since my children are out on their own. I feel selfish for feeling like this but I want my life back where I can come and go and be happy again. Now that she is in hospital I feel a relief. I want to know how I can talk to her about going into a home where she can be monitored by doctors because I never know when there is something wrong with her. She don't do anything for herself only go to the bathroom. I've tried to talk to her about doing things for herself but she complains her legs are bad and she don't have the strength in them. Twice in 2 weeks she called me at 3 in the morning to come down because she had fallen, but she didn't hurt herself. I can't take her back up in my living area to live, I did that for 8 months and she almost drove me insane. I know she wants to come back upstairs but I just can't do it no matter how her health is. How can I talk to her now while she is in hospital to convince her she will be healthier and happier in assisted living. She will not get any better only worse and I don't know how much more I can take. Sorry for babbling and don't even know if this makes any sense