Am so thankful I found this website. All these years I thought I was the only one that had issues with my elderly mom. At first I thought she was coming down with dementia because she was becoming so mean to me, but she didn't have any memory loss associated with the disease. So I began to think it was me and that I was an ungrateful, good for nothing daughter. It's been hard and there were times when I hit rock bottom emotionally. The one thing that kept me afloat was writing in a journal when things got really bad. My downward spiral started when my Dad passed away in 2007. Before he passed he asked me to take care of mom and I promised myself I would include her in everything so she would never be alone. I have to say that I've kept that promise but at the expense of my own happiness and well being. In the beginning I thought her meaness towards me was her way of mourning Dad's passing. It wasn't. It has gotten worse over the years and I've gotten so tired of my life. But then I found this website and see there are others going through the exact same situation and realizing it's not because of me being an ungrateful, good for nothing daughter. It's her aging and becoming more difficult as time passes. Wish someone like Dr. Phil, Dr Oz or Oprah would bring to light those of us who have to deal with difficult aging parents and provide information as to available resources. I'm done being an unappreciated slave to a controlling, nagging and downright mean mother. I know it's going to take some time to get out from underneath her thumb, but I have to start before she completely destroys my life. Thank you agingcare.com for throwing me a lifeline.