Problems with Sister
Dad passed away unexpectedly on February 27, 2013. Sister had been charging them $800 per month to help with their grocery shopping, meds, etc so that was fine with me. I live an hour away, work full time plus own/operate a part time riding stable business. Right after Dad's death, I was able to bring mom and dad's bank account up on-line, saw that she had $7100 plus in there so I left and went back to work (after being there for Dad's arrangements). My sister and brother in law had already gotten mom aside before I could get there and had her move in with them. Sister quit her job the day after dad passed away. Fine - mom always got along with them better, etc. Never expected that I would check on the account on-line and 3 days later they had blown $2,800 on flowers, hair appts, groceries, gas, etc. And 18 days later they had gone through $6700 for the same thing. Took mom to a sports bar - she's never drank in her life. Anyway, mom supposedly has $100,000 in life insurance coming in from Dad's policies, and I've been told by several (including my attorney) that they are probably going to run through that money just as fast, and then bring her to my house. I don't think that's going to happen only for the reason that I think Mom is going to have $2500 per month for the rest of her life. I would like to just wash my hands of it. They are going to arrange for Dad's memorial, and probably won't tell me about it. By the way, I'm the daughter who is successful with an MBA, Certified Management Accountant, etc. Sister barely made it through high school and lied to my parents for 6 weeks telling them that yes, she was going to the art school they paid through the nose for. I worked my way through college. My husband and I did turn them in the Adult Protective Services for misusing her funds. They could end up having to pay back some of that money. My only concern is them running through all her money and then bringing her to my family to care for. I'm sorry after she lets them do that I don't know how concerned I will be. Call me hard-nosed but I don't owe them anything, and my attorney confirmed that. I'm sick of it. I would not have done that with her money and find it totally disgusting but it is her money to do with as they wish. I did check the account this morning and they have slowed way down (had to). To top it all off my mother in law passed away 18 days after my dad. This is on the virge of really causing me and my family (we have an 11 year old daughter who was making straight As in school before this).