I am lost... don't know the next step to take to help Mom.
I am lost... don't know what to do. My Mom was very ill 2 yrs ago. She thinks my Dad come back from the dead. She talks about him dating a nurse from the nursing home that she was in. I told her she was very ill and that she was dreaming all these things. No they were real, she insists. Her comments of her dreams are always the same, to the detail. She gets angry and or upset because I don't believe her.
She dreams of him all the time, hears him, thinks he is next to her in bed. (so heart breaking). I told her she is lucky to see him all the time in her dreams. She says no it is real, but why does he stay away from us. He must be with that young nurse from the nursing home. And if I tell her that Dad is in heaven, then she says no he is not. (I am to the point that I just listen, and don’t say too much.)
She doesn't want to clear out any of his things, as he may still come back to her, and would need them. She is insisting on going to the nursing home to look for him. I of course don't want to be embarrassed, and don't want to take her. But to keep her calm and from getting upset, (because of her health) she is tempting me to take her, otherwise she is going to call a taxi. She is so depressed; they were married for 52 years. She says she has nothing but myself and my son to live for. :o) I tell her well there you go, that is enough!! And we need you too!!
She has been recently talking about jumping in front of a car, to just end her life. This breaks my heart. She is with me all the time, and I would make sure that would never happen. I left my job 2 years ago to take care of her. When she was ill in the hospital, it was 6 months to the date of losing my Dad. So I couldn't bare to loss another parent.
She has many health problems, and is being medicated for; high blood pressure, diabetes, COPD, temporal arteritis, cholesterol, stage 4 kidneys, hypothyroidism, gout, pain, depression, anxiety & stress.
Mom knows current things going on around her; day, month, year, remembers things from the past, helps me finish a sentence ;o) and reminds me what I was talking about. (I am the one losing it).
She doesn't want to go to thereapy. So, I am stressed and confused how to handle this. Any advice would be appreciated.