Feeling resentment and I don't know why.
For almost a week, I've felt a growing resentment towards Mom and our situation. But I'm not sure why. Mom is a stroke survivor with impaired vision and balance issues who lives with us (been 2 years). She has never done anything she didn't really want to do (unless her husband wanted her to do something and then she did it for him, so she wanted to do it because he wanted it.)
Mom is actually nowhere near as difficult as many others I read about on here. She is thankful and is aware of the sacrifices we make to have her in our home. And she is here more because she cannot afford to live on her own than because of her health/disabilities.
And maybe that is why the resentment has grown.
She doesn't want me to find things that might help her with vision issues like a larger computer monitor. She says she'd love to write but doesn't know what to write and so won't do anything until she feels like it. Same for crafts. She doesn't subscribe to the idea that you do something and THEN you feel like doing it. At a family funeral this weekend, she walked around the church hall independently. This was such a surprise since she insists on holding my arm in any public space and at family gatherings usually sits in one place while we bring her food and drink. She says she doesn't want to use a cane. Seeing her walking around and grazing at the food table made me realize, again, she is doing this because SHE wants to.
My husband and I chose to have her live with us. But right now, I resent that she did not prepare for her future. And I resent that she doesn't try to be more active and independent. That she does only what she wants. If she didn't live with me, I wouldn't care about that kind of behavior. But for some reason, it bothers me when it is in my home.
I hope I can let go of this resentment. It doesn't feel very good.
Maybe I need a break. I will ask some friends and family who live a few hours away if they can take her for an overnight.