I don't want to do this anymore - my own life is suffering.
Recently divorced and relocated, my 83 year old mother followed me. She lived with us for about 13 years prior to my divorce (she is not the reason for the divorce). I have a sister who is a medical assistant as well as an alcoholic - she has been of very little help.
The relationship is not good between me and my sister. She slept with my husband after I left in our bed with my 15 and 23 year old sons in the other room. She did this out of anger in that she is not happy with a book I am presently working on. Although you would never know it, we went to Catholic schools.
I am trying to get my life in order with work and social life, but feel that my mother is really hindering that process. She fell last week in the bathtub and I could not pick her up and had to call the fire department. It is only a matter of time before she falls down the wooden staircase in the condo I am presently renting. She is living in the 2nd bedroom that was originally intended for my, now, 16 year old son for when he comes to visit as he lives with his father in order to stay in the school with friends as originally intended prior to the divorce.
I originally got her a place in an adult community 5 minutes away that offered amenities such as transportation and numerous clubs and activities. My sister would not help financially and it became too expensive for her to afford. I told her that she should get a roommate, to which she refused. I have tried to talk to her about the idea of getting a place with another senior back at the senior community and it results in a screaming match. She is Greek, of which there is no relief...
I really feel the need to get on by myself. I have had two nervous breakdowns since leaving my husband, a car accident, a bankruptcy (I took all our debt), and an almost eviction (my husband was late on payment which then affected my ability to pay the rent). All of this in light of being disabled due to a workman's comp injury in 2004 that is still active...
I look like crap and I feel guilty...help!