So demotivated and sad.
After helping mother with mobility issues (mentally alert) for ten years while she was still living in her home went out on a limb against siblings to avoid going to a nursing home. Always felt in my heart I would do everything I could to keep her with me. Now wheelchair dependent-needing help the majority of the time transferring from wheelchair to stair lift,recliner,bathroom and all activities of daily living. No real recognition over the ten years but out of love, took her to live with me a little over five months ago. I asked for some compensation, in large part because I wanted my work to be valued. After much debate and emotional upset,payment was made for three months and has now stopped. Is unwilling to pay for home health aides as she feels I have freedom to run out to do errands (after helping her to the bathroom and putting everything at her fingertips. I have been very honest with her about my feelings but honestly when you have to tell people to be grateful. Siblings of no real help in this regard as she runs her own affairs. While the physical care can be hard, the lack of appreciation is what really gets you down. It will break my heart if she leaves my home for other care arrangements when it didn't have to be that way but I won't be able to tolerate this situation long term. One brother took her for five days, another reminded me she could have gone to a nursing home. Two other siblings aren't directly involved. If anyone would like to comment-please do. My first reaction when I found this site was I could have cried seeing other caregivers trying to encourage each other.I really respect what you all are doing.