Christmas Blahs! Help!

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This is my 3rd Christmas with my Mom living with us and having dementia. I have always been a Christmas doer, shopping, baking, music, decorating, etc. So for the past 3 years, it gets less and less. It is already the 10th of December and I have no tree up, the mantle isn't decorated, nor the windows and the Christmas cards aren't even made out yet. I want to get the tree up and my decorations out so my Mom can enjoy them, but it's just not happening. She doesn't allow me out of her sight and watches every move that I make and hides behind a newspaper and peeps at me all her waking hours. This makes it almost impossible to get into the Christmas spirit. Does anyone have any suggestions or ideas to help get me out of the blahs?? Thanks so much!

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Just wondering if there are other family members or friends who would be willing to let your mother stay a day with them while you catch up? Is there someone that she would know who could drive her around to see the Christmas decorations?
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Sometimes, just trying to find the smallest little things to be thankful for, helps me out of the Bah hum bah mood. I am thankful for my mil is still able to use her suppository on her own as long as I am with her in her in the bathroom. I just couldn't help myself but it is true n I am very thankful too. ; ) My two house cats think they r human too n the have their stocking to prove it. I hope everyone here has a Blessed Christmas.
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I wasn't much in the Christmas Spirit this year either. My husband has dementia and no longer even knows the concept of Christmas. My son, who is disabled, but high functioning is the one who brought out my Christmas joy. He is so excited about the holiday and is keeping me on track with doing things we've always done. I am truly blessed to have such a wonderful son!
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Two words: Nursing Home
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WOW! Thanks everyone for the Christmas wishes and kind comments and help. This just made my day to get up and read all of this kindness. So today is card day. I think the postmark 12-12-12 would be really interesting, too! LOL! Then out to the building to revive the tree. My Mom just kind of looks at me like why do you have half of a Christmas tree setting in that spot and the cat looks at me like can't you do any better. I can't hide under here and I need my tree skirt. She acts like a human! LOL! I really, really appreciate all of the ideas and help and hope to hear more from everyone. It has helped so much! Keep the Christmas comments coming. Maybe it will not only help me, but others as well! Merry Christmas and a big Thank You!
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sorry, I signed off my message about taking Christmas to others with an encouraging note to Chloe, the original author of the Christmas Blahs message. My name is Corey (pretty close) and I apologize for the confusion. There are so many good ideas here, I hope Chloe benefits in some way. Tks!
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Chloe, I think what your doing will bring a smile to some person who could useable friend on Christmas. I am also feeling the blah's. My daughters are comming into town to visit us. Imagine Christmas from the eyes of a child. (not childish) Imagine how they react when they open a present. You are a very compassionate person to be taking the time to do this. Merry Christmas!
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Chloe, sorry for your lost n around this time of the year is a bit harder for those whom have lost their love ones. I think with your doing what your mom n you would do on Christmas will help u take out the bla this holiday n you will be doing a great help to other people. I bet your mom was a very kind n thoughtful woman.n that is where you may have gotten such a thoughtful heart too. I hope u have a blessed Christmas.
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This time last year, we celebrated Xmas with Mom at home in a hospital bed. It was wonderful, though-- my brother came with his girlfriend and spent loads of time with Mom. We didn't decorate her house, but I put a little bit up at my house. My mom died last July and I have been divorced a while. This year, I am going to do what my mom and I did on occasion-- take Christmas to a needy family in the form of decorations, food and thrift store gifts. I get to honor her memory and experience the Christmas spirit through another's eyes. This has taken the "blah" out of my holiday season. Best to you, Chloe!
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The time you used to spend decorating is spent caregiving. You probably are not able to eat and sleep well either. All of this tends to make it difficult to get into the Christmas mood.

I would see if a friend, relative or hired help can come in to care for your mother a few days, so you are "freed up" to do the cards and decorating if you miss doing it. I involved my father in putting up the tree by asking his opinion on the lights etc and he thought he was helping. If I made cookies, I wheeled him into the kitchen to talk with me as I mixed up the cookies. He of course sampled the first cookies with a cup of tea so he was happy.

But realize in your daily care of your mother, you are living the spirit of Christmas. Perhaps listening to the holiday music would make you feel
better as well.

Good Luck.

Elizabeth
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