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I have been taking care of mom for 2 years now. Yesterday, I was diagnosed with cancer and given 6 months to live. My mom is crushed and so am I. I will put her in a group home at the end of the month. That way I can live the time I have left not having to care for her.

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ireese, I am so sorry to hear your news, I will keep you and your mom in my prayers, my heart goes out to you!
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Ireese, you're right to place mom in a home but please don't give up! My cousin has had cancer spread all over her body but she's still going strong and doing chemo. She does everything she can to fight this and I hope you will as well. Please don't give in to it and try and fight each day to live. I am certainly sending good wishes to you and I hope that you might get a miraculous healing. Hugs.
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YOU are my HERO!
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What a bunch of caring and loving folks sending their best wishes to you Ireese! Don't give up!
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Dear Ireese, My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family at this time! It truly takes a selfless person to do what you have done, especially with what you have just found out! God's love will surround you and Faith will help you through this trying time. Do what YOU need to do, for you have already given so much.....! God bless you as you take this path..... just remember to breath! I'm holding you in my thoughts with God's perfect Light of love encompassing all of you....! We will be here for you~~~~~~!!! Godbless
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Dear Ireese,

I'm so sorry to read this. I agree with everyone else, I pray that you have family/friend support to help get your through this and to help get your mom into another situation. What a terrible time for both of you, my heart just aches for you.
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Praying for you and your mom Ireese...(((Hugs)))
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I can not tell you how sorry I am There is nothing I can say to help ease the pain. I wish you all the best and will be remembering you in thoughts and prayers. Many things are turned around throught prayer.
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I'm so sorry. You gave up a lot of your life to help your Mom, and then you get this news. I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you (and your Mom). But you need to focus on you right now. ❤
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Ireese, I know way too many people given 6 months who are still alive years later and cancer free. Never take the word of any doctor on that. Go to cancercenter which is the Cancer Treatment Centers of America. They have the best cure rates of all. I have a friend who was given a 19% survival rate to live 6 months who used them and she is now cancer free for years. Another had cancer that had spread and they gave her 3-6 months. I suggested Cancer Treatment Centers and she is alive and cancer free 5 years later. My cousin had uterine cancer and she was given less than 6 months and it has now been 6 years since she went to Cancer Treatment Centers and she is fine and the cancer is gone. They do a complete attack on cancer including the usual chemo, meds, radiation but they also have access to other meds and they do complementary medicine alongside it including nutrition. It's not over till it's over honey and it is NOT over for you unless you let it be.
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You don't say what type of cancer, but have you tried Cancer Treatments of America? They along with Mayo are doing great things with terminal-type cancers. I cannot speak for you, but I would want to go out fighting. So if you can get to one of their clinics do so and get another opinion. Mayo found a very rare sarcoma in my husband's pancreas, and he has lived 7 yrs. and counting more than he would have had I believed another hospital that said there was nothing wrong. Never give up, never give up, never give up! (Winston Churchill)
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Ireese, dear one, can you see if you can go on an alternative therapy like the "Gerson" Therapy process. Get a book called: Healing The Gerson Way, Defeating Cancer and Other Chronic Diseases by Charlotte Gerson with Beata Bishop. Her clinic is in Mexico. After you get your Mom into a personal care facility, you need to be the center of focus, love and attention. It is possible to heal even 4th stage cancer that has metastasized. Dr. Sattilaro went on the Macrobiotic diet and kept his cancer at bay for many years until he folded and went back to his old way of eating and his old way of thinking and then the cancer came back. Cancer is a systemic disease that has emotional, mental, environmental and life style causation. Our Western medical practices deal with the human body as if it were a machine that can or cannot be fixed. Other cultures look at the human body, mind and spirit as a wholistic system. Read a book called: Dying to be Me by Anita Moorjiani. She was clinically dead from lymphoma cancer and saw the mental/spiritual causation of her disease and completely healed herself and is helping others to avoid having to go through what she went through. Examine your belief systems. Get rid of all fear, angst, burdens of the past, present and perceived future. Fear and worry is very highly destructive. Truly our very inherent nature is that of God = Love. But when the majority of our waking hours are the exact opposite of that, we suffer. I want you to spend as much time as you can every waking hour feeling and emanating as much love to your body, heart, mind and soul as much as you can. Love is a healing energy. You've been giving it to your Mom. The Universe, God (whatever name resonates with you) is screaming at you to give this love and attention to your self. Love everything that you were, are and will be. Say: I love my heart, my lungs, my intestines, my lymph glands...whatever parts are effected....and love them as you would love your sweetest lover. Embed the belief system: I AM WORTHY of every good and wonderful thing. I am one with God and God is one with me and God's healing energy is coursing through my being morning, noon and night. See only God. Hear only God, sense only God, Be only God in your consciousness morning, noon and night and allow whatever is meant to happen to happen. Go with the flow of life and know that truly you are LOVED by so many souls. May the angels on this side of the plane and on the other side of the plane engulf you with their loving arms at this time. You are on my heart. Love and hugs.
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The doctor had no explanation. Dad received no surgery and no meds. The doctor said it was a miracle. God does work in mysterious ways. Dad had time to put everything in order and to say all his goodbyes.
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Prayers for you Ireese and for your mother. You must be devastated! I will ask Jesus to surround you with love and comfort. My Dad was diagnosed the same with cancer and 6 months to live. He was in Hospice. He actually was released from Hospice and lived for another year and a half. We took a trip to the Outer Banks in NC and had a wonderful trip by the ocean. He had a wonderful time even though he had to climb a flight of stairs to get to the first floor. He drove until 3 days before he died. He asked for pain meds the last week of life. He actually lived a wonderful life and I was honored to be his caregiver at the end.
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I'll send you prayers for your time to be as fulfilling as possible. The only advantage that people given a death sentence have is the time to live knowing their time is limited. Not to minimize your diagnosis, but hopefully to help you live as well as possible through this time, I'd like to share stories of four people I have had the pleasure to know. My aunt was given 4 months with liver cancer. She said she couldn't die before her g-g-grandchild was born - due in 6 months. She lived a fullfilled, happy 13 months with 3 g-g grandchildren. Her three sisters rotated coming from o-o-state to stay with her a month at a time. What a blessing for all of them. A close friend lived content knowing she was able to continue being with her grandchild long after the period she had been given. A young 34 year old friend has been diagnosed with terminal breast cancer for over two years. It has metastasized several places; but she still is well enough to be an active part of her spouse & 3 daughter's lives. Many treatments have extended her life and she survives with a maintance dose of Chemo. My friend's husband has also had and entended period of survival with colon cancer. They have traveled and he continues to work on good days. May God bless you with fullfilling times and enjoyment with your family and friends. My heart and prayers are also with your mom.
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Ireese, I can only imagine the emotions that you must be feeling, as well as how your mother must be feeling. No parent plans to out-live their child, especially a child that has been caring for them. I will pray for you and your mother that you have peace with the decision that are to come and that all of your days are filled with joy.
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Surrounding you with positive thoughts, and wishing all the best for you and for your family
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praying for you at this time. sending love to you and your family, xx
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Don't give up! Doctors are wrong all the time. There are amazing stories of people who beat this. Surround yourself with positive thoughts and people and keep believing that this is just a trial that you can over come. Praying for you!
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Dear Ireese, I have offered up a prayer for you and your Mom...for strength, courage, and peace as you face this terrible transition. May you find peace and comfort in knowing you did your best for your Mom and that the Lord will give you what you need in your final days. God bless you.
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lreese, I hope these next months are good ones for you and the cancer is not painful and debilitating. You didn't say which type it was, but I know it is a very serious one. I wish the cancer would just go away, or at least let you live reasonably healthy a lot longer than 6 months. That is my greatest hope. If you have a chance, please check back in to let us know how you are feeling
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Ireese, you must be going frantic with everything - trying to get your mom situated. My mind has gone blank. I just wanted to tell you that after the shock was over (Yes, shock. Unfortunately, here on island we have a very very high rate of cancer), I thought of your mom. I remember the last time I read your post which touched my heart was when of xmas day and how your mom stayed in her room to give you that day to enjoy your family. I'm glad that you do have a loving family to lean on. {{HUGS}} Book
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Oh Ireese, oh my gosh, I am so sorry. I hope you have friends and family with you to support you like, Jsomebody said. Can I do anything to help? Are you spiritual? I will say a prayer for you every night if you would like -for healing or acceptance or whatever it is you desire. -Mishka
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My God Ireese, I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you have support there and have loved ones and friends to be with you. I can't imagine the pain you are in. Know that there are people thinking of you and wishing you what ever peace you can find it the time you have. You deserve to feel safe and loved! Jen
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