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UGH!!! Mom's up whimpering and whining because she has a hair appt at 12:15 today and doesn't want to go..If she didn't looked through my calendar she wouldn't have known about it.. So now it's panic attack time and I have no sympathy....BREATH...BREATH..

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I totally agree with urging them to keep appointments they want to break. If anyone else's mother is like mine, she regrets it when she breaks appointments. If it is her hair, the same unhappiness about her hair will exist until she keeps an appointment. If it's a doctor, it is just putting off the time until later. She'll dread it again then. She use to weasel out of appointments a lot, but now she goes to them all. Encouraging and pointing out that they'll just have to go later usually works.
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Some beauticians will come to your home and do the work. Maybe that's a possibility?
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Oh rosebud HA...I love humor it's my scapegoat! Read my post today on "how you doing" the saga continues...

If my Mom starts seeing shit she's going in the home! Lol
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Assandache7 - boy was I surprised to read that you had ANY problem with your situation - I mean that in a lighthearted way, because of all the amazing 'answer' posts in this blog that you have submitted - so many are excellent ones that are always so sincere, compassionate & knowledgeable. I was starting to think you must teach a class somewhere called "Caretaking 101"! (Again, just teasing!) But seriously it's amazing the kinds of things that each of our parents go thru, and what freaks them out. In my case, my mom can't WAIT to get a hair cut!!!!!! (And I can't wait either, because that's the ONLY way I can get her to wash her hair! :-) WW3 has just about started with all attempts at attempting to wash it here ~ she keeps claiming she's already done it that day her self ~ I finally gave up and decided oh well, so what if she looks like a dishrag by the end of the two weeks! You pick your battles! Lately my mom is becoming extremely delusional - it's strange because it's hard to tell if it's mental illness or dementia, or both. Two nights ago she "spent hours on the phone with men who were going to get me and my brother a job, so we had to be sure to get up right away and get ready....." whoah! what phone? and she clung to that story all day. This am she woke up insisting that she had fallen on her head in the middle of the night - i sleep in her room so there's no way i coulda missed that! In some ways it's like a weird psychodrama unfolding before your eyes, every day. If it wasn't so actually emotionally devastating in the process it could almost be entertaining....
(And I love your avatar about wishing to be a bird....)
Blessings for the weekend to everyone ~
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Well, her bag was packed when I went downstairs...... ;)
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Care4 if your Mom's anything like mine and she knows they'll be kissing her ass all weekend then the bag will be packed in a jiffy!
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That's tough. I get what your saying......it must be hard for you. My mom is anxiety-filled from time to time....usually when she has to do something she doesn't want to do or face......but once she's on her way/appointment is over she's as happy as a clam.....it drives me bonkers!

I try explaining to her the importance of personal hygiene, doctor appointments, etc., but she just goes along with it not caring one way or another....until she's at the appointment with a big smile on her face for the receptionist and doctor to see! Somehow we manage to get some laughs in on the way to these appointments....I certainly don't want my mom to be unhappy......but when she sees the glass half empty....that kind of attitude does not help!

Right now I have to make sure she's packing her suitcase/see if she needs assistance........and I hope she doesn't start complaining about going.......it will be good for her to get out of the house.........ugh! I hope you can come up with a solution......less stress for you!
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The notes won't work for my Mom she has a panic attack if she knows ahead of time..
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My MIL was wearing the same outfit several times per week, but not consecutive days so it may have been washed and returned to her NH room. Growing tired of seeing that outfit, we made Day of the Week tags from card stock and laminated them. Each card has a plastic loop to keep the hangers for the outfit together. On Sunday, with her input, a family member gets the outfits ready for the week. She has been very receptive to this approach.
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I bought post-it notes and I put them in mom's room a 1-3 days before appointment....this gives mom time to deal with the fact that her appointments are coming up and she has to go to her appointments like rest of us have to.....they are a part of life....she may still complain about them....but she can't say "I forgot" or " I didn't know about it"........
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