I am bitter, burnt-out and feeling trapped.
My dad died long ago and I have long been my mother's go-to. She heavily depends on me now in her late 90s, more than ever. I have my own health issues, am single, thus my own struggles with household, etc. My much younger siblings with spouses don't do their fair share with Mom, even though they live much closer to her. One lives 8 minutes away, the other 12 minutes and I am 35 minutes away, plus I have vestibular problems and need my daughter to drive me! Yet, Mom depends on me for ALL her business and more, making it a huge challenge since she insists on being totally involved and misplaces everything!!!! It always produces anger. In addition, my daughter and I clean, do her laundry, manage her heath and make sure everything in her household is going as should be for her! She coddles my sister and brother. When they visit, it is a pleasant social thing for them and Mom. I scheduled a 10 day vacation and just heard that my sister, who knew my dates, planned theirs of over 6-8 weeks going through my 10 days! Who will be there for Mom?! Will I have to cancel mine? If I don't, I will be worried about Mom. No matter what I say to my siblings, they do their own thing. This is affecting me immensely and talking to Mom does no good. I feel trapped and angry. I am the executor and when the time comes, I was not going to draw any money for any work connected with Mom on all her business, but now I am reconsidering as it seems it is my only recourse of "payback" to my inconsiderate siblings. I did not want to go this far but don't know what else to do. My quality of life is poor and it adds to my health problems. They do not want to listen to me. Any suggestions?