At my wits end.
I don't even know if this is a question. In April I got my mother to move to assisted living after a hospital stay for a bowel obstruction in February and a short rehab in nursing home..Unfortunately no rooms were available in the regular wing, so she and a couple others were placed in memory care to wait for an opening. She was belligerent, demanding and rude but was slowly adapting. Then 3 weeks ago another bowel obstruction landed her back in the hospital. The social worker suggested a short stay back in the nursing home. Her temper is worse. The nursing home doctor hats tried changing her antidepressant and added anxiety meds to help smooth the moods. She is refusing to take the meds. Now she is calling me and speaking to me very angry. " I want my house keys, my coat my purse. They belong to me and no one else. I am not going back to ALF" I am not staying here." She is implying I am up to something. If I wanted her bloody house and money I sure wouldn't take her to ALF or NH where her resources will deplete in no time. They say she doesn't have dementia. I have POA but that isn't the same as guardian. I am exhausted and tired of fighting her. I have helped her stay in her home for 16 years.