I am sorry for the warehousing comment. Sometimes I just don't think. As an introvert, I would hate a communal setting, and forget that extroverts thrive on the contact. In stating my own selfish preference, I insulted everyone who has had to make the agonizing decision to place your elder in an AL or NH. To everyone I have offended and emjo especially please forgive my obtuse rudeness. I admire everyone's dedication to the spouses and parents. Thank you all for all your wisdom and help. I couldn't have got through last year without you guys. I think the world of all of you .