Has anyone read this article?

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"Why I want to live long and burden my children" by Cheryl Magness. I only found one discussion of it online, on Disqus, and all very favorable reactions there. I thought it was the most hideous, heinous, deplorable piece of carp I've ever read. Anybody else?


I guess that is a way to look at it. Personally I get more the feeling that he thinking is like a form of denial of the internal pain she is feeling. But who am I to say, because I don't know her?
Just based on the title, I honestly wouldn't consider it worthwhile reading. Perhaps the title is meant to be humorous in an odd sort of way, but if it's not, I would prefer not to spend more time on depressing and not helpful reading, especially since you write that it's hideous, etc.

Inbetween novels I'm reading one of the Chicken Soup collections this one on the "Unsinkable Soul". It's the second time reading this, and it inspires me, makes me want to think more creatively and find a better way to managing caregiving.

The article sounds like a whining, depressing, self pitying expression of one person who's unknown to me, and not something in which I would find merit reading.

Perhaps the question is why something like this is even published, but then magazines, newspapers, and certain websites haven't demonstrated quality or sensitivity in some of the garbage they post. Maybe they've adopted the political style of scorched earth and attack modes.
I probably won't read it either.
I would have guessed from the title that it was meant to elicit a ho-ho-jolly-funny sort of reaction; and we do need to guard against sense of humour failures. But I'll go and look it up and come back to you.
Oh. Well that's five minutes I'll never get back.
That good huh?
It is an article that compares the blessing of the sacrifices made for children to those made for aging adults in the home. It is an article about how the increasing dependency of aging adults is a wonderful burden. Then the author talks about all the resentment and bad feeling like a learning experience to be appreciated. I thought it disrespectful to the elder in a way and a salve to cover the resentful feelings of the author. A bit twisted.

Maybe it's better to think about how scary it is to be old and alone, like being turned out into the world in a fragile state.
Well, the author seems to be a well-respected speaker and writer of the faith-based community. It is very twisted IMO, but that's what we're up against, at least in the extreme. The gist is: It's a blessing to have these burdens because they force you to be unselfish and to sacrifice for love.

What terrifies me is the idea that this type of twisted logic could be used to foist even more eldercare responsibilities off on adult children and provide even less government help, or as an excuse for seniors to take even less responsibility for their own care needs in old age.

Jessie - I agree it's disrespectful to the elder, now that you mention it. I was taken by how disrespectful it is to the writer's children. It's basically saying to her kids that even at the age of 60 or 70, you will still be so lacking in moral sensibilities that you will need to sacrifice your comfort and happiness for my benefit in order to become better people. Sheesh!!!
I don't think there are any easy answers about how to take care of our elders. One of the things that makes it so difficult is the huge profit motive of the elder care facilities and healthcare facilities, in general. IMO, it is like everything works together to make sure that everything that every family has ends up in the hands of a few by the time someone dies now. And of course, there is Medicaid and Medicare that helps to drain the public coffers.

Maybe Emanuel had the right idea for us to make decisions for ourselves as individuals. If I'm old and not in the best health, do I really want to take more pills to live longer? I know that very few people ever want to die today, so when we get to that point we may do whatever it takes to keep going one more day. We can always die later. Just not today.
Ah, I want to be a Klingon elder woman. "It's a good day to die." Of course, in the future I might change to "Give me drugs."

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