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I was at the dollar store and found the one thing I needed the most when Mom was living with me. An Alarm that goes off when a door or cabinet opens!!! I said to myself .... a bit too late for me, but now I can pass this on. If I were greedy I would sell them on here for five dollars.

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I'm deaf and I have conquered this one too. It's an expensive set up but then again I can't "hear" an alarm go off. Instead I have an wireless alarm that vibrates which connects to a motion detector. When my father gets up and moves the "silent" alarm wakes me with a vibration.

I also came up with a relatively cheap way of cutting down the chances of my fathers wandering which I have found to actually work! While getting him ready for bed I take his shoes and put them in my room. When he rises the first thing he does is looks for his shoes. When he can't readily can't find them he goes back to bed. This method doesn't work all the time but since I have instituted the practice of hiding his shoes at night it has cut his wandering down quite a bit.
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I am desparate for help to handle/cope with my mum who has terminal cancers and vascular demantia. She had a episode of severe rotavirus gastro and 3 weeks of hacky cough, She was hospitalised x 3 days for rehydration because of he gastro. Since her discharge from hospital 27./09/12) she has become notably aggitated, very uncooperative and resume her 'horrible' paronoid personna. She would put up a 'good front when the hospice personnel visits and promise to cooerate with all insruction directed by the hospice BUT given by the daughter. HOwever, as soon as these people leave, she would turn into very uocooperative individual -refusing to do anything, and accuse the daughter me for making her suffer!!!! I am so exhausted, dealing with her peronna, hospice does not advice getting assisted aid for she has been known to be very 'nasty' to x 2 previous nurses. My sister (eldest)refuse to 'give in ' to her whimps ( even at the request of hospice, I cop all blame. Nursing home is out of wuestion , there is very expensive palliatice care service we can't afford .I need all advice and suffestion.
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Hiding the shoes works for my mom too.
Not always but often.
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House modifications.
Gates on the living room.
Gates on the kitchen.
Removed and internal door so she can see the toilet and doesn't have to wander around to find it.
Alarms on front door.
Locking fence and gate on back yard.

I sleep better now.
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Correction : Removed an internal door.
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Try a baby monitor , also.
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We had to install all doors with key locks, and I kept the keys hidden.... put up all sharp objects, and anything we didn't want her to get into, we hid.... she could get out of her hospital bed with the rails up... but couldn't get out of a chair without assistance.... and she still managed to clobber me one evening, rang my bell , I saw stars, she pushed me down before i could get my senses back and broke my leg.... so everyone that has a 'wanderer', please be careful...
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Caregiverson- When I was still caring cor my mom at home, we put the plastic childproof covers on the doorknobs and mom couldn't open the doors; turned the circuit off that goes to the stove; child gates at both doors to the family room because it was a step down.

Juliek - is hospice helping? We used them when my father was dying. They were wonderful. And when we had to go to California for 3 months for my husband's cancer treatment, we were able to get a friend who hadn't been able to find a job to live in and take care of mom for a very low salary since she had free room and board for the 3 months.
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I am glad I started this discussion. This is a dangerous problem and almost impossible to control. My Mom climbed out windows. We had a barricade on the door ... chimes and we removed the chairs because we put 2x4's to jam the door and she stood on chair to get them down. I never took them away to get out when Mom was looking...one day I couldn't get it down myself, Mom came out from behind me and says "you having trouble? I'll get it "... goes into the closet gets a broom (as I watched curiously) raised the broom handle and knocked down the boards, then says "no problem as she grinned" The shoe thing was impossible because she refused to take them off. Now I know why. I did find out that for some reason eye sight is altered with some dementia, depth perception is warped. When a door is same color as the walls it looks like no door exists. She never once tried to get out the front door because the blinds that were always closed were the same color as the walls.
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