Al Pacino in 'The Devil's Advocate' got it right.
"Guilt, it's just a damn ton of bricks you carry around." Al Pacino
We do what we do for our families because we are good people and have a heart. Many, including our siblings, do not. Yet they don't appear to suffer. We do. But when care giving exacts a toll on our health and lives (which it always does), then we no longer are "good people." At least not to ourselves. And that's where guilt often comes in. Continuing to do something that we know is slowly killing us. Perhaps its time we start feeling "guilty" for how we don't take care of ourselves. To me, that may be the real crime, eh?