Aging angry father who won't say, "thank you."
I am the youngest of 5 siblings and 4 of us take turns being with my dad who still lives in his own home. My dad is 97 years old and is just plain mean sometimes. His mind is somewhat ok, especially while the day goes on. (mornings are not good and after a long nap is not good) We never really had a father daughter relationship and he never really showed much love or affection while I was growing up. I never heard "good job" or "thank you". I try my hardest to please him...cooking his favorite foods or talking about the good times that have passed. My problem is that he was critical of me growing up and is still critical of me now and I still never hear thank you for all you do. When the "mean" comes out in him I tend to be mean back to him because that is what I put with as child and I have no patience to continue with the verbal abuse. I'm sometimes at my wit's end and dread when it is my turn to take care of him. Depression has set in and I have no desire to do anything when I get to my own home.....)-: