Adventure's in dementia care.

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I am sure everyone has a story to tell. I have several about the unexpected things that happen. Honestly at times you just have to laugh to keep from crying.

My dad had dementia and was pretty aggressive as well as a rabid smoker. The facility allowed smoking in the central courtyard and he would spend hours sitting out there in the shade smoking. I noticed that there was a lady in a wheel chair who hung around a lot but did not realize that it was to beg a cigarette from my dad because she was not suppose to be smoking due to breathing problems. As soon as I left she would hit him up for one and got it I guess. One day she finally rolled up while I was there and asked for one. My dad elbowed me and said "watch this". He looked at her and said "you know what you need to do" and BAM she whipped up her blouse exposed her bra-less upper body and he handed her a cigarette and she rolled off happy as she could be.
Needless to say I was caught off guard and it took me a moment to react.

I made sure the sitters stopped that going forward and went to the administrator right away to tell her so they could watch the old lady also.

Like I said....sometimes you just have to laugh so you do not cry !!!


Well I have to tell you, that one cracked me up. Your right, you have to laugh to keep from crying. Mom and I play the 'who's on first' routine on a regular basis. With her getting confused, it makes for some interesting conversations!
Thanks for the laugh...I needed it. One funny thing about my Mom (92 w/dementia) - if we are at a doctor's appt., she will make comments about other people in the waiting room in a loud enough voice for everyone to hear and needless to say the comments are not always complimentary! She thinks she is whispering to me but her comments ring out...there's no filter and she says what I may be thinking! Have to laugh to myself in times like that. (:
I can relate to the laughter. There are many times my mom who has dementia will start laughing about something until her stomach starts to hurt. It may not even be all that funny but I get started laughing so hard I am in tears. It has been a blessing to see my mother laugh because growing up in our home she would cry a lot due to manic depression. Now she laughs at everything. It has been an honor to take care of my mom.
JDP1000 that is hysterically so wrong! Reminded me of the story I heard years ago about my great aunt who was in a NH, I believe with a form of dementia. It seems she had a gentleman friend there, and one bright day an aide came upon the two of them, just standing side-by-side looking out her picture window at the busy traffic, both stark naked!
Thanks for my laugh of the day! I really needed it!
LOL....I am glad you all enjoyed it. Looking back there were a lot of things that make me chuckle now. At the time I was so busy trying to hold it together I did not see the funny parts until after my dad passed. Now with my wife in the later stages of FTD Dementia I try to "enjoy" the parts that I can more and dwell on the bad things less and keep trying to hold things together.

Wow, Salbert. I can't even imagine that. I took care of my parents from beginning symptoms till the end for a total of approximately 16 years. I don't think I ever heard either one of them laugh, even once, at anything in all that time. I think the laughter was one of the first things to totally disappear, even before the memory or the reasoning. I would have given anything to hear them laugh again. I don't think I did much laughing either.
ROTFLMAO! But why report them? Life is so short, with so few pleasures at their stage in life.
Okay - I don't want to be a kill joy here but "why report them?" Really?
JDP1000, same here. Since I'm the caregiver I can't always see the funny side. I hate seeing Mom like this. Right now she is trying to tell me something and I have no idea since it doesn't always have anything to do with what is going on at the time. Things come out of left field. I really hate to laugh at what she does because...she is my Mom.

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