Adding a second EPOA-sibling jealousy.
Just after some advice. Id like to add my name on mum papers as enduring poa. My sister (younger) had her sign epoa papers with just her name as mum seemed to be off with me-i now know why. Its been the dementia. My sister is very controlling and emotionally unpredictable (she did punch me in the head once for not listening to her advice the way she waned). She is executor of the will and is not in a caring role for mum at all. Im finding it very expensive to drive mum around,cook her meals and take her out. Some days mum wants to shout the world coffee and other days she pretends she forgot her purse. I cant ask mum to reimburse me as she gets suspicious im taking her money. I asked my sister if she could transfr $500 (for a year) so i could cover mums costs without struggling and she said no. Apparently when putting mum in aged care they will ask for 6 mths worth of back statements and will question transfers and unusual withdrawls. She has a spare keycard and im not allowed to use this to buy mums food when i do shopping for her. So the short of it is how do i add my name to the enduring poa papers without the process of court (which i simply wont do)