About a dear friend who has Parkinson's.
I'm going to describe my friend's situation and I would like your opinion as to whether or not this is elder abuse.
She lived downstairs from me at the condo, which she liked a lot, sunny, bright, and absolutely no clutter at all. She was neat as a pin and had a cleaning lady come in once a month. She did her own laundry, used her exercise bike, went to get her hair cut every few weeks, and got her nails done every week. She always was neat, clean, and tidy, as was her condo. She was in a book club - 1 book a month, and 2 of the friends in it would pick her up and take her and they all would eat together and discuss the book. Lots of friends in the condo.
Now she lives in TN, way back a dirt road, in a house that needs a lot of work ..... a LOT of work. The first week they were there something happened to a pipe coming in from the well and the basement had about 4-5 inches of water and "stuff" all over the place. I'm just hoping they had it professionally cleaned and sanitized.
The inside is an absolute mess .... clutter doesn't even cover it. There is "stuff" laying everywhere, every flat surface is covered with junk, they don't seem to be mindful that they need to keep the floor clear for her and her walker. It looks like it could be the first layer of a hoarder's house ..... gross. There's no more haircuts every few weeks, no more getting her nails done, and she has no emergency buzzer system that she wears. She can't even do her own laundry as the facilities are in the basement. There is a step to go into her bedroom, and to the bathroom (there's only 1 very tiny bathroom - again, trouble with a walker), I don't know how she takes a bath, her room is dark and the whole place is just dark and dank. I'm sure there are "creatures" living there .... roaches, mice, etc. She essentially sits all day in her chair. The kitchen is such a mess .... I would not eat one thing that came out of there. She can't go outside for some fresh air as there's a step to go down and then it's all uneven, with a very broken up sidewalk, so she's stuck.
Coming from where she did, this is what she has to live in. Flooring is lifting up in spots, and some of the wood between rooms is broken away, leaving gaps to fall on. I noticed yesterday, her bed had no sheets on it. They expect her to put them on herself, which she can't do especially the bottom one. She looks awful and physically she has gone back. I think it's depression dragging her down .... it's not a life.
I will call Adult Protective Services to make a surprise visit, if you all feel as I do, that this is elder abuse. Thank you for your help.