I just spent a few days with Mom, (89) and my stepfather of 45+ years. I had called him ahead and told him that I wanted the right to give my input to my mothers future care. He's hiding something. He's also lying about where their money came from. Patting himself on the back, while keeping money from my dad's veterans money that goes to mom. I judge from his conversation that he is trying to beat the system. Mom wants to stay in her home, and will finally accept some in home health care. They are in Nebraska and I in SD. Don't I have the right to know who drew up their papers and where they are? My stepbrother is executor. He lives in Denver. All my stepfather did to pacify me was to tell me about the hippa law, which I already know and had to fight for when she was hospitalized.