The difficult narcissistic parent.
Sometimes I feel like a complete hypocrite when folks see me out with my Dad and comment on what a wonderful daughter I am. All I'm thinking is "I HATE THIS".
So Dad is now in an IL facility, but absolutely REFUSES to have things so any other way but how he wants it.
They have continental breakfast there, but he doesn't "like" that kind of food. If I don't make him a big breakfast, he won't eat. I've had to resort to trying to make microwave breakfast sandwiches to save time, but he says those don't taste good so he won't eat them.
I try to give him the freedom of choice on meals, but when he can't make a decision, I will pick one of the three restaurants he usually eats at only to have him scream at me because he doesn't want that type of food, He actually threw away a whole plate of food last weekend and told the folks at the IL center that I was starving him!!!
I will call him and remind him to eat at the facility in the dining hall, but if he wants to go out to eat, he will try to FORCE me to take him out by not going to eat downstairs.
Last week, I actually stole a few moments and went to brunch with my BF and his mother. Then I went shopping with his mother. It was AWESOME, but when I visited Dad later that evening he announced that he didn't eat lunch because I was supposed to be with him and not "laid up with some broke boy..."
I'm sick of making extra provisions for someone that won't at least TRY to work with me. Maybe this care giving thing wouldn't be so bad if Daddy would HELP with the situation.
When I try to set boundaries, dad throws tantrums and will find a way to force me to give him his way. He's pushed his other kids away. No one in family can spend more than a few hours with this miserable old grump.
WHINE..... Why me?