Sad about my dad
I guess I am here on this site to put my thoughts out there to see if anyone else has experienced the same challenges I'm facing with my father who has been diagnosed with dementia. My mother passed away about 7 years ago and like a lot of men, my dad was approached by a family member who was recently widowed herself. In the beginning I was happy to see that he and she had someone to be with, but over time I noticed that she was there when it was convenient for her as her priority was her family which often led to my dad being alone. I have always been there for dad since my mom passed away and kept a good relationship with him as I truly love my dad and wanted the best for him. Over time I had received phone calls from my dad where he was crying and or mad because this lady friend had not even called him or wasn't around. I have taken my dad to the doctor, to visit family as well as taken him and his lady friend to family functions in the past. Over the last 7 years, I have seen the changes that have come as a result of the dementia in my dad's behavior and because the lady friend did not really help him much, I hired a care worker to come in 5 days a week to help him and keep him company. The lady friend was extremely upset about this and would not be part of this plan. I feel that she has now been turning my dad against me, saying that I hired someone to do her job, but she didn't lift a finger in seven years to help. I am exhausted and tired of always hearing nothing good about how I've helped my dad, but he always goes on and on about this lady friend. Even though she will not work with the plan I have place with the care worker. It is so very sad to see this happen to my relationship with my father after all these years. Anyone have suggestions on how to not make too much upset in the family and deal with the lady person? I have now had to restrict the time that I go to visit because it is so painful to watch.