Recently ill mom caring for dad with dementia
My mother is 85 years old with congestive heart failure, diabetes, high blood pressure and is taking thyroid medication (not sure why). She is the caregiver of my father who is 89 with dementia. She recently experienced shortness of breath and was hospitalized for 2-3 days (fluid both heart and lungs). We have tried to get her to get some in-home care for my father, unfortunately insist that she can do it all. She barely has the strength to take care of herself. She does not take her medication as directed and continues to eat "salt or salty" foods. My father is a real handful as she lets him sit in his chair all day, he naps often, becomes agitated easily, therefore does not sleep at night. He will yell at/for my mother to do things he can still do. If she does not do what he wants he will get out of his chair and go yell at her. We cannot convince her to get help other than Meals on Wheels. My question is since she is the caregiver of my father who is unable to care for himself, would this be grounds for us to gain guardianship of my father to have him placed in a facility or even come stay with one of us until my mother has either gained her strength or realizes she cannot take care of him?