Parents who refuse to pay for outside help.
My parents (86 and 89) have lived with me for the last two and half years. They left their home about 2,000 miles away to move in with me.They were to move to a retirement community but a number of health issues occured so they are still with me. I own a business with my son but now am unable to fill my responsibilities as I am always at labs, doctor's offices or at hospitals. My parents are children of the depression who have a lot of resources but refuse to spend any money for outside help since they have a daughter (the only child) who should be happy to "take care" of them. I love my parents but I am totally worn out and if I suggest hiring some outside help - they are upset and feel like I should be able to handle all of their needs without "paying for their care". They took care of their parents and this should be my turn. I spend 40 -50 hours a week taking care of them (cooking, cleaning, Doctors, etc) and 60 hours a week at our business. Last year, there were 80 doctor appointments, labs and tests. This does not include the rehab months, emergency rooms and hospital stays. I was hanging in there until this month and now I have
10 appointments scheduled in the first 3 weeks of January. At this rate, I now see a total of 120 labs, appointments, etc. If my parents didn't have resources or were younger, I could see how they were concerned that they might outlive their money - but this really can't happen. I have given up time with my grandchildren, my friends, and all outside organizations and now sleep It appears that I might have to give up my share of the business with my son. How can I make my parents understand that the money they saved for "when they were old is money" is the money should be spending now? I am totally worn out.