My mother just moved in with my husband and I from a nursing home 10 days ago. She has dementia / alzheimer's and is at the stage where 5 minutes ago is sometimes longer than she can remember. As is typical she does remember stories from the past, but she does not recall my father's passing 15 years ago, nor the deaths of her siblings.
She does ask about them from time to time as if they are still alive and gets either angry that "no one told her" or depressed that she doesn't remember. I am always honest with her, but frankly I am not sure if that's the best as the content of the talk is gone minutes later. What is often left is a mood change that I am sure she can't even explain. I am not sure that ther is a "right" answer as to how to handle things, but any advice is appreciated.
I am new to this site, and already feel some of the stress of this new 24/7 job that I see in other postings, but we are close to having her attend day care so I am holding on to that light. I am cautiously optimistic that she will in fact be able to attend that program as she seems to be slipping quickly, although is in good health physicall for an 88 year old.
I look forward to any responses and to reading how we all manage to get through this phase of life.