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My mother enlaw is taking care of her mother,80 year`s old,she want`s to know if there is finaical aide out there some where to help (like care giver`s pay) or something in that order?if so where would she go for finaical aide?Please help!

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If any of these seniors have prior time in the military there could be some assistance thru the VA. The VA has a benefit called the Aid and Attendance Program. The person does not have to be retired military to qualify and it also covers spouses and widows.
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My dad is 93 and lives in his own house. His needs have increased to the point that I have to be with him a good part of the day. I could no longer keep up with my work and I work only part-time. Now, my hours have been cut, and it's really difficult. Is there any way I can get financial aid for myself? I just can't find any answers.
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Local churches almost always have Benevolency funds for things like this. Don't be afraid to ask.
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Thanks, Anne, but would you elaborate on keeping my nose clean? Appreciate it.
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Yeah, run!

Seriously, you are a saint. I'd be wary, though. Not everything sounds too good here. Keep real good notes and keep your nose clean. Pray
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Hi ... sorry about the long post, but to finish it, I just feel this daughter and her family have priorities that don't support well a caregiver. She is a supervisor and is quite alpha and set in her ways. She has expressed that she doesn't want to hear requests for changes from her subordinates unless they also offer some alternatives they feel may work. So, I'm putting together a similar presentation. We are in Antioch, CA -- east of San Francisco about 50 miles. Does anyone have suggestions for resources. He is not a veteran and I will look into the options discussed above, but perhaps someone knows of Bay Area, or CA-specific options for both financial aid and senior-center type assistance on the weekends, etc. Even if I don't stay much longer, this could help my successor -- and the family too. I'm not too keen on getting this financial assistance in the daughter's name as she may be inclined to keep the money herself. I believe she's already collecting some money from him for household expenses. He's also a homeowner and another daughter lives in that house. So, he's not indigent by a long shot. Thanks for any ideas.
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I had a new little nonprofit before I got back into caregiving. The economy put me in dire straits and I became sorely financially stressed, needing to move. I put together all I could offer as a caregiver (I do have experience) and my request was for a bedroom, office space, some storage and pantry, and the use of an auto (as mine had been stolen and uninsured for this). I couldn't seem to get an appointment with an agency for nonmedical live-in caregiving in a timely fashion, so I placed an ad on Craigslist. The next day, I saw an ad that I followed up on -- for the position I currently have. The people, daughter of the elderly man living with her, her fiance and her 6-yr son, are quite nice. She said she wanted someone for full-time coverage, which I agreed to, had a car for my occasional personal use and for his errands, appointments, etc, a beautiful home with pool/spa, bedroom, office, pantry space, etc...basically everything I requested. I learned by full-time, she meant 24/7 where I have to watch over him (he's in 1st stage alzheimers, and is a heart patient, and generally mobile an doing well) and have to coordinate to leave site at all, especially for anything personal. Initially, there would be all kinds of help to cover for me, and the sense was that my charge would want to go to church and I could go every week with him without any constraints. I'm trying to get back to my church on Sundays and it's been like pulling teeth to get him to go or any tangible support for that. They all go to church, though her father refuses to go. I requested no money and they do not wish to reconsider our deal, other than to try to provide me more ready coverage so I can do some personal things. I see they spend quite a bit of money on take out food, on electronics, etc, etc, but I also see the bills all don't get paid (the power and gas was actually shut off once already
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JennaLynn- Check out this URL. It's the result of a search at ClinicalTrials.gov for "hip replacement"..http://a.gd/f5.

Be sure to read about clinical trials carefully before proceeding. The referenced government site offers information you need to consider before agreeing to any participation.

Martin
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There is nothing worse than being without money or insurance in this country and needing surgery. You may have a tall hill to climb with this one. A few suggestions:

1. Check with your state regarding their indigent care services.
2. See if your state offers "no fault" health insurance. It can get pricey but the costs may be less than the payment plan you work out with the hospital.
3. Contact the nearest teaching hospital. They may be low cost program where student doctors perform the surgery under the direct, table side supervision of skilled surgeons.
4. A real long shot would be to contact the manufacturers of hip prosthetics. They may have new products to test and offer low cost/no cost surgery as part of their research programs.

Best of luck to you and your mom. I know it's difficult to see someone you love in constant, debilitating pain with no way to relieve it.

Martin
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Can anyone help? My mother, who is 57 years old, is suffering from a complete degerneration of her left hip joint. Her doctor has advised a total hip replacement as soon as possible. The problem lies in that my parents have NO insurance. Due to my mother's "pre-exsisting condition" she is difficult to insure, and even if she could find a company to insure her, the payments are so outrageous that my parents can't afford to pay the premium. I've looked into getting her on disability, but apparently the state in which we live, Oregon, has no such program. My parents don't own a home or property. They have minimal regular income. The hospital has agreed to work with us on a payment plan for the surgery, but even the payments would be difficult to bear. Any ideas on financial aid for this procedure? My mom is in constant, debilitating pain and NEEDS this surgery to regain her life.
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You're welcome, FanciCoffee! The Veteran's Aid and Attendance program is one of the best kept secrets of the VA. Not sure why they don't publicize it more than they do. See if the folks at the National Association of County Veterans Service Officers, Inc. can guide you:

http://www1.va.gov/VSO/index.cfm?template=viewreport&Org_ID=86

Best of luck to you from a fellow Texan!
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Oh my goodness! What information! Thank you, big time. My spouse served in the Korean War, therefore he is a veteran and is with the VA. I will check in to that and see if that will be available to me when the time comes. Thank you so much for that input. I live in the panhandle of Texas and did not know of any financial aid for spouses who work, yet need the money to live from day to day. May you have a very blessed day!
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Benefits Checkup is an exceptional resource for finding virtually every possible piece of financial aide available to low income seniors on the national, state and local level.

Created by The National Council on Aging (NCOA), it's most comprehensive Web-based service I've found to screen for benefits programs for seniors with limited income and resources.

If your grandmother or her husband were in the armed forces contact a local Veterans Service Organization about a pension benefit known as "aid and attendance". The A&A Pension can provide up to $1,519 per month to a veteran and $976 per month to a surviving spouse. The funds can be used to pay for a variety of care needs including in home assistance.

You can get more information at http://www.veteransaid.org/ or at Veteran's Administration website: http://www.vba.va.gov/bln/21/pension/vetpen.htm#7
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What about the above mentioned sites: n4a.org and benefits checkup? I would like to know about these sites and any updates you can share. I was a caregiver for my husband for a short time, but will be again in the future. Thank you for sharing this information. Does medicare give any help?
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Each state has funds the trick to all of this is finding them. Each state is set up differently. Then there are grants basied on diagnosis. There are some states that will pay the caregivers. At the moment there is no one place to get all your questions answered. They are working on it. Yell loud and clear to your state and goverment officals. We all have to pull together and help each other. I am the primary caregiver for my mother (92) so I had to do alot of digging. A great place for infomation is NFCA. The National Family Caregivers Association. Next month they are going to have a teleclass. Pass on what you learn. I hope this helps.
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started a petition to send for all caregivers for some uniform benifits maybe if we hollar loud enough they will here us.
thank you
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After reading the above comments I feel selfish. I am looking for financial help for myself. I am 70 and live with my daughter and her three daughters, I long to have a place of my own but only have 679.00 A MONTH SS. i AM STILL VERY ACTIVE AND WANT TO GET BACK ON MY OWN. aNY SUGGESTIONS WOULD BE APPRECIATED. THANKS CLAIRE
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I take care of my father who is 88 tomorrow, he was 85 when he first moved in and his ageing body has gotten progressivly worse to the point of not being able to leave him alone for very long as he is having difficulty remembering, getting up and down to use the bathroom or just swallowing food as he chokes easily. I am finding I can't work on my business like I had in the past and need to know if there is some financial aid out there? I am a swimming pool contractor with an office in my home, however I can't seem to go out and make sales calls like I did as I can't leave him. What do I do?
Please help, Nancy
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Laws and regulations vary by state. But some will provide at least some pay for family members who provide care. It takes some research and digging to uncover the resources you need. Getting a paycheck for being a family caregiver is not easy. Here are some government programs that are worth looking into, however, because every bit helps.

https://www.agingcare.com/Featured-Stories/120513/10-Government-Programs-You-Can-Access-for-Mom-or-Dad.htm

Also, be sure to check out the links that our wise members have provided earlier in this post: http://www.n4a.org and http://www.benefitscheckup.org - they're great resources, and could help you uncover some money you're entitled to.
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Does anyone know if a caregiver who is not related can get financial aid or pay??

I am the caregiver for my disabled girl friend. She is on SSI. I see alot of information on financial aid for a familiy member taking care of a elderly or disabled family, but nothing of taking care of a friend who has no family in this area.

thank you for any responses.

Kathy Bulboff, Modesto, CA
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Check out the National Area Agencies on Aging http://www.n4a.org/. Many states do provide a financial benefit to help offset in-home care if you financially qualify. Too, it is often a good idea to call your local United Way as they often support non-profits that do provide in-home support for reduced costs or hourly commitments.

Bryan Wisda
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Fancicoffee:

I think you should do that but there is also another resource that can assist you in getting the most out of the benefits available. Got to www.benefitscheckup.org. They can help you find tax info, financial, meds, legal and all kinds of things. It will help in all kinds of areas so you can identify what you are entitled to.

Good luck! Hey, you always ask good questions, so keep on posting. This information helps us all!
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Do I call the number above for Eldercare Locator to see if the state of Texas will pay me for being a caregiver for my husband?
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I was reading an article on this site wondering the same thing about caregiver pay. My 86 year old grandmother lives with my family, and it does take a financial toll. Anyway, I went further and read the comment posted by MissMia under the article and thought this may help:

In answer to both questions above, I would direct you to a great service from the AOA. They have a number you can call that can get you the resources and information you need. Call -800-677-1116 for the Eldercare Locator.

This came from a study by the Family Caregiver Alliance:

Most states (all but six) pay families to provide care in at least one
of their state-administered programs.
We asked state program administrators: “Can family members be paid to
provide care in your program?”
w Over half (57%), or 86 out of 150, in 44 states and the District of
Columbia) say they do. Only Alaska, Delaware, Mississippi, Nevada,
Pennsylvania and Tennessee do not allow payments to family members.
w A higher proportion of Medicaid waiver programs (36, 74%) than
NFCSPs (59%) or state-funded programs (40%) report they allow
payment to family members (other than spouses or parents/guardians
of minors).
The practice of paying families to provide care may be perceived by some
state administrators as a consumer-directed option for the individual
benefi ciary or consumer (i.e., the care receiver) without directly aiding the
family caregiver. Nine of the Medicaid waivers and fi ve of the state-funded
programs reporting no consumer-directed option for family caregivers say
they do permit benefi ciaries to pay family members to provide care.
© 2004
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Dear Sandy,
I`m thinking about calling the SOS office! There got to be some thing out to help,And I`m sorry to here about your parent`s and your self.I`ll keep you and your family in my prayer`s!God Bless you and your family!I`ll let you know some thing asai know some thing ok,
Tamie
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I wish I knew. That is what led me to this site. I am the caregiver to both of my eighty year old parents. My mother has Alzheimers disease and my father has i have degenerative disc disease with many other ailments.

Seeing as how I am doing this by myself and I have Crohn's disease... well, there just has to be some help out there.

Perhaps we can help each other.

If you find something, post it here and I will do the same.

Good luck and God bless.
Sandy
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