My sibs and I need legal advice or support. As many of you may know, I have been dealing with major dysfunction regarding my parents. Long story short, mom had dad arrested for abuse (she went after him with a knife as he was trying to flee) he being a severely emotionally abused person admitted to abuse so she would not get in trouble, he was advised by a lawyer to stay away from her until trial which he did (charges dropped) . While separated he had a lawyer write up a separation agreement which was served to my mother 2 days before Thanksgiving which sent her into a tirade where in front of witnesses she stated that once she got to see him she would make him come back and take care of her because he "owed "her. My father is petrified of my other to such a degree that he does not (has never) been able to stand up to her in any way. He has been beat on, stabbed, almost run over and emotionally abuse for over 30 years. well she wnet to where he was volunteering and told him he had to go home and of course he did. Now, less than 2 weeks later he lies in a hospital bed on morphine for extreme pain terrified she will come and do him in. We are out of state and are trying to get legal help with a restraining order on his behalf to keep my mother away. My brother is planning to fly down and go to court to do this as well as become his health care proxy but what I do not
know is because my father is on morphine will his word that he wants our help be valid? Nursing and social workers are begging us to keep my mother away from him but legally we are having troubles doing this. My mother has Borderline Personality Disorder and is very smart and cunning. She really intimidates people with her steely gaze. We (4 sibs) are so past that and we are going to meet her head on. Please do not say to us why did you do nothing before. If you have any knowledge of Battered Persons Syndrome you will realise how no matter how awful my mother treated my father he thought he deserved it and would defend her to the end. well, the end has come for him and he is now (from a hospital bed) ready to get away from her. It seems the holidays bring out the best in people.....I for one never liked holidays...too many bad memories (I guess I will add this stuff to the list!)
Good thoughts are keeping me sane.