My mother is 75 years old and has COPD and is on oxygen 100%. She is depressed and I cannot get her motivated to take care of herself.

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She does enjoys cooking but is too exhausted to clean up after herself. Her mobile is extremely cluttered with things she does not need. She gets off track taking her medication because she sleeps alot and watches tv all the time. We are considering one of those retirement communities but I feel her mind is not ready for that and I feel she'd think this was it... now all she has to do is wait to die. She could move in with us but it would be very tight. She has a dog and a cat that at least keep her company. Our families do not have alot of money. We've had services come in to help but it was a waste of time. It is very difficult to visit her because of her depression and her home is not healthy or appealing. I don't know what to do... I have been trying to work with her but I get no where.

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