Mum tells me one thing and tells my sister something else.
It has always been that way but she is getting worse. Her whole conversations are about how she is depressed and how she is lonely. She has a fabulous network of people but has become very nasty. I am on my own too and she never thinks that I could be lonely as well. My sister and I give her as much support as we can. She phones crying and threatens me and most times when I try and ask her what does she want me to help her with, she hangs up. I might go 2 weeks without a call. She has recently seen a counselor and her doctor and is suffering depression. The thing is she has been like this for a long time. My children don't want to visit her and when she does ask about them I just say they are busy with work and their social lives. Mum lost her 3rd husband only a few months back and I know she is still mourning his death. I am finding it more and more difficult to deal with her anger and forgetfulness. Unfortunately she has always made it about herself and never once gives consideration to my sister and her family nor mine. When we try and give advice she tells us that she doesn't like being told what to do. How do we go about helping her without coming across that we are telling her what to do. I tried to shorten this without going into too much explanation. Any suggestions. Thank you