Mother lived with me for many years and recently moved to an assisted living facility and hates it.
She hated living with me and now hates it there. We have tried several different things and she is always unhappy. Either she is lonely (at my house) or swamped with people always pushing her and telling her what to do at the assisted living place Nothing I do is right, though she seems to modify her angry behavior around my sister. She is on both meds for depression and anxiety but nothing seems to help. I know her mind is slipping because she is terribly forgetful and repeats questions over and over. I really try not to get hurt when she zings me but its hard not to. We used to have a decent relationship but that began to crumble when she moved in around 15 years ago. She is now 87 and I'm really sad to see her spend her last years full of anger, anxiety, stress, mistrust and worst of all- unloved. She is not unloved-- I would invite her back here again but I know it won't help. I can't think of anything else to try to turn this around.