My Mother-In-Law still refuses to sleep in her bed.
My 87-year-old mother-in-law was moved to a senior living facility over a year ago after she fell and was diagnosed with early dementia and doctors recommended 24/7 care. She has never adjusted to living in the facility and has refused to sleep in the bed because it will mean that she's going to stay there. As a result, she has developed circulation problems in her legs and a stooped back from the constant sitting. She refuses to participate in social activities with other residents and sits in her chair waiting for someone to take her home. The nursing staff believe that she should be told that her condo has been sold and that she is not returning home. However, her sons believe that if they tell her that they sold the condo, "it will kill her." She becomes upset when family members visit because they will not take her home. She has no major health issues and could continue like this for years. We live far away and are only able to visit every 2-3 months. Should we tell her that the condo's been sold and hope that she will accept her "new" living arrangements or continue to avoid the issue?