Mom getting "sick" at meal time.

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Mom went to the best nursing home in town last Thursday for rehab, hopefully she can come home at some point. She has never been a good eater and gets embarrassed eating in front of others because she can't see well and is messy. At least three days she has gotten "sick" at meal time, wheeled her to the nurse's station and then back to her room. The nurses take her vitals (recent arrhythmia diagnosis), they are fine, she says she isn't in pain. I think it's nerves, she told me she is kind of enjoying meal time when she sits with residents who are social and talk. Her roommate says mom isn't eating much at all, she is trying to encourage her.

Any ideas on what to do? They are giving her ensure, so that is helpful. I take her back to the doctor on Monday, need to start a big list of questions.

Thanks.

Nancy

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Thanks vstefans, but glad you don't have the high-fat dips to send. Here I am never eating sweets like he does and always watching the scale. A good sense of humor is the key :-)
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Yeah, let him snack, and then do dinner later.. four small meals a day may be just the thing for him. If we hadn't already gotten rid of all our high-fat cheese dips and such that we sure don't need, I'd offer to mail it all to you for him!
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vstefans,
Thanks for the tips. I do buy oatmeal raisin cookies and Fig Newtons. When he goes to the store he will buy chips and dip. I've caught him sitting in the den munching away, his cheeks full just before dinner time. In a way I guess it's funny, but he always tells me not to put salt on his food. He is not overweight and is in fact thin. He is a very active, hyper person, always has been. Also has no sugar problem. So as I said, maybe at 97 let him enjoy what he lkes.
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Ssangal, maybe you could sneak some protein into his favorite sweets (e.g. lower fat cream cheese, nuts or nut butter) and maybe have some with raisins or prunes for fiber, and let him eat what he likes! Smaller amounts on the plate may seem less overwhelming to him too. If he's overweight or losing weight, there could be other concerns with that of course...
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This probably doesn't apply to your mother, but my father who is 97 will not eat all of his dinner. He tells me I cook too much and put too much on his plate. Here's what I've noticed. He likes his sweets. I always check the cookies, cake, pie and notice that before I start dinner, and we eat early, he must be getting hungry and starts snacking. I've mentioned it to him telling him he's filling up on that and not eating the healthy food. I have thought of not buying the 'goodies', but then thought at his age he should also have the things he really likes.
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I keep little snacks for my mom at her NH in a drawer, bananas for one. If I am out running errands throughout the day, I will call the NH at a certain time and ask that the cna go to mom's drawer and help her eat the banana that is there. Tapioca is another good one. If you can keep a few of these types of things at your mom's bedside perhaps she could help herself to them if she is hungary in between meal times. I don't know if your mom is capable of helping herself to these or if she needs assistance. Try the ensure perhaps in all 3 of the flavors if you think she would like them for variety purposes. They cell little 3/4 packs of jello. I get the ones that don't require refrigeration. I am told its a good source of hydration.
Maybe she should be consuming soft mild soups instead of heavy meals. Medications of course could be the cause. Make sure she is getting the electrolytes she needs if she is vomiting. Pedi something that they use for kids would work.. Don't know if you want to add any more medications but over the counter zantax works for me and calms my stomach.
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Nancy. Glad u got some help. UTI tx wasn't Bactrim was it? Very heavy serious side effect profile, many have lots of probs w it. Banned in some countries but not here. Pushing fluids, h2o especially should help flush med or other toxins, & helpful for UTI reduction/ non-recurrence. Sr's manifestation of UTI is behavioral n significant, so mom has many possible sources of anxiety. Hoping she's feeling better soon. She is quite the trooper, not sure I could do 3 hrs pt normally, let alone w all she's had going on, hugs for you and mom both! Kimbee
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One of the staff members from church went to see her yesterday. He is a psychologist and excellent with my mom. My brother went later and they both said anxiety. She just finished meds for a UTI, so I think the antibiotic is contributing to the nausea and not wanting to eat. She said she felt "weird" at supper, but stayed at the table and ate. I am thinking the guy from church gave her tips and hints on what to do. I didn't want to ask many questions, I am hoping she will let him help her deal with all she is going through. The antibiotic is causing her lots of problems now, she is done taking it, so hopefully the side effects will go away. Thanks.
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Full time? Nope-TRIPLE time! Maybe more... Hope your brother can help. I think chair / position discomfort could be a potential problem. If it was all anxiety, it seems her heart rate would go up. Since she likes the social aspect with the ladies who talk, request she be placed with them at meals and perhaps ask those ladies privately to help look out for mom. Our elders all need purpose and to be needed. That would be an easy way for the ladies to help another peer and surely would make mom feel good too. Thx for fling us in on why mom is there. Sorry she had a fracture. Keep us up to date-I learn so much here from everyone's experiences. Kimbee
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Such wonderful suggestions! She went there after almost four weeks in the hospital from a pelvic fracture, no surgery. She was in a skilled nursing unit, came home for a day, went back the next day with a new heart arrhythmia problem.

She is concerned about her weight, she went from 108 to 110, which is excellent! Today is her birthday, my brother is going at noon to visit. He was a psychologist for 20 years before we started our own business. He knows what is going on and is very good at figuring out what she is thinking. She doesn't complain about this when she is in her chair for PT. She complains how long she in PT, they work with her and then she sits for a while and her sessions go as long as 2-3 hours. I tried to tell her at least she can look around and visit and isn't stuck in her room. One of the aides took her outside on Monday in the courtyard with a few others. She felt sick and had to go back to her room.

I thought maybe it was sitting in her chair and really more of a discomfort/pain. We are going to ask about a wheelchair that kind of reclines, so she isn't sitting at a 90 degree angle.

She has macular degeneration and they can't do anything for her eyes. I am going to have the OT talk to her about eating. Since she broke her right upper arm in late March, she has trouble with utensils. I have eaten there and the food is really good, so much better than the hospital. Since she really can't tell me what is wrong, I think it's more anxiety than anything. She is also very afraid of her rate zooming up. They check her vitals every time she has a spell and they are always okay.

I just want her to be comfortable there and work on her goals so she can come home. We will most likely continue with home health at home and some hours from her private care giver agency.

Do you all feel like this is a full time job, at times?
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