Lost Father-in-Law

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My wife's father died on July 1. He was 91 with some dementia, COPD, and atrial fibrillation. He said he was "fine" the day he died. We think he was trying to protect us, and wouldn't share how he was feeling or what he was thinking. We are getting grief counseling from hospice.

We wish we had engaged palliative care long before we did, but Frank would not say how he was really feeling.

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I'm sorry to hear about the death of your FIL. I lost mine several years ago, but in contrast to his life on earth with such an abusive, totalitarian wife, he now has peace at last.

Back in January the doctor ordered palliative care for my mother but the nursing some said that her long term health insurance would not pay for it and the nursing home together. I do not know if that is true or not, but that is what they said.
Medicare pays a portion of palliative care, maybe all of it depending on you plan. Nursing home people can make mistakes. The only place you can get the facts is directly from your insurance company. I hope you will check. Palliative care can make such a difference for you and for your mother.
Carol

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