Is this remotely fixable?
I asked this in "Questions" but perhaps I need to explain more. I have a wonderful aunt in assisted living because of Parkinson's. She got it pretty young (50's) and is now in her late 70's. My cousin lives nearby and is there every day. The latest difficulty is that for the last six months, or so, my aunt has been taking her diaper off in the living area of her room and doesn't make it to the actual bathroom. So, she just pees where she is - which is often all over the couch, rugs, clothing, mattress! She can't seem to remember that she needs to go into the bathroom BEFORE she starts to urinate! She knows that she needs to remove her pants and diaper, but doesn't make it to the actual toilet. Although almost saintly in her personality, she gets furious if anyone tries to suggest that she has a bathroom and that she needs to pull her pants down after she's IN the bathroom. We don't want to shame her as she is incredibly dignified and sensitive to criticism. BUT, my cousin ends up doing about three loads of urine-soaked laundry per day. The mattress is a real challenge, and sometimes the assisted living workers don't put the mattress pad on, especially if my aunt has already peed on it! This disease is so cruel. She can't remember to enter the bathroom before taking off a diaper, but she can remember the prosecuting attorneys in the OJ Simpson trial! If anyone has suggestions as to re-training her or at least helping her cut down on these numerous "accidents" I'd be so grateful. I'm going there in two weeks for a visit, so I'd like some wisdom to share with my dear overworked cousin. Thanks