I'll have to resign from caregiving; I'm sad and frightened about my future.
A little over a year ago I retired (at 72) and moved in with my 95-year-old mother in her home, so that she could come home from a dismal assisted living facility.
It has worked out well for both of us. She has thrived at home---she's in wonderful health and cheerful again---and she's so easy to help. She appreciates what I do and she expresses it. I really don't have much to do other than housekeep and cook, coordinate her medical care, make sure she has some pleasure in life. This has also allowed her to live within her income; assisted living was chipping away at her assets.. And living with her has made my retirement financially easier.
But I've been just a little unwell almost from the beginning. I've just come out of an extended hyperthyroid crisis, ending with the radioactive treatment of my thyroid gland, and I'm still exhausted. I know I'm recovering from that, but now an old sciatic nerve pain has come back. I trust that it's temporary, but it will always be there waiting to return.
I function, but just enough to do what's absolutely necessary. Then I'm overwhelmed either by thyroid-related fatigue or by the sciatic pain---or both.
We have agreed it's time to make different plans: prepare the property for sale, dispose of the stuff accumulated during 90 years of family residence in the same home, find an attractive assisted living facility where she can later transition to more extensive care if it's necessary.
It will take at least a year to do this, and of course during that time I need to choose where I will go after the property sells and my mother moved, and what I will do. I'm frightened, because I have a very modest income and retirement fund. I had thought I would be able to supplement my income for several more years, as I did while I was still working, with translations, editorial work, tutoring, etc., but I simply don't have the stamina, physical or mental. I've already had to turn down a few jobs and I know my clients have replaced me. I actually had to withdraw from one job before finishing.
I could use some moral support, so I'm turning to this wise and experienced community. Please help me find the right way to look toward the future.
Love to you all ... Realtime