I need to vent!
Where to begin. I come from a family of 2 brothers, 2 sisters. All live out of state. I left home at 17 to begin working. I being the eldest daughter always felt like a slave to chores, etc at home. Well that stopped when I left. I really never kept in contact with my family since I was busy with my own life & career. They never talked about anything important always griping about something.
Fast forward. At 52 I retired after 34yrs with same job. I left chicago & moved to Florida where I had always visited & wanted to live. I built my own home with my money & moved down here. BIG MISTAKE! I built right next door to my parents.
My dad was ill but I didnt realize it was so serious. He passed in 2004. In my heart I wanted to be by Dad so we could catch up on old times.So now there is only Mother left in her big old house.
This woman is 85yrs old. I am 62. Neither one of us drive down here. I never learned & didnt have to up north. There is little to no transportation here. So what does she do? She turned into a drug addict recluse!! Will not venture out in the last 10yrs for nothing!
I have hired drivers,friends to help me but she EXPECTS & DEMANDS I do all her shopping,cooking,weeding,cleaning,vacuming,etc while she lays on couch all day. Remember I have my own home to care for?
Now, we have been to many drs & hospitals because she claims she cant breathe(they say she has copd),but she is not following drs orders with her meds & keeps taking otc meds for sleeping,coughing(which is a lie),stomach aches,headaches,you name it she got it.
Well every 3 months she calls 911 to be taken by ambulance to hospital to get admitted! There is nothing wrong with her they say she just wants attention. No I say she wants DRUGS! And so they give her more drugs! She even tells them what to give her! Come ON!!!!
My vent is they keep her overnight or 2 days then send her back home(via taxi) with the drugs she wants & then she thinks I should just take over again because she is sick! HAH! She needs professional help & I have talked to them till I am blue in the face. So last night she claims she has to go to hospital because she is sick. I just blew a gasket at her & told her under NO circumstances is she coming back home with more drugs that her doctors will not give her!
By the way both her doctors are not affiliated with the hospital they take her to. They dont even know she is in there. That is why she goes.
I have been dealing with this nonsense since I moved here with no outside help. I have gotten nurses,caregivers,assisted living,nursing homes,etc to send out personel to give her some options & she calmly says no I can just go into hospital when I need care otherwise my daughter can do it!!!
This is just ridiculous! Im sick & tired of her nonsense.
Thanks for listening.