I need help with my mom when I travel
I'm new to this website. I hope you can help me and my brother with a new problem we have with our mother. Mom just turned 92 and last week we learned that she has Alzheimer's. I had suspected it.
I work full time as a video producer. My job involves some traveling--not nearly as much travel as in the past. Now my trips are about two days long. Sometimes there are conferences when I'm gone for one week but most trips are 2-3 days long. When I travel my brother, who is 5 years old than me, moves in and watches over mom. Lately, mom gets very upset when I travel and has been very difficult for my brother to handle. I try to prepare her for my trips weeks in advance and I post information all over the house because I know she won't remember the conversations we have about my upcoming trips. Still once I leave home and call her to see how she's doing she will ask me where am I and yell at me for leaving home without telling her where I am. She gets very angry at my brother for not jumping on a plane right now and bringing me back home. Talking to her on the phone and reassuring her that I'm safe doesn't help she is still afraid something bad might happen to me and still claims I never told her about my trips. She has always been very protective of me, I am the youngest in the family. Now she always has to know where I am at all times. I don't mind telling her where I am but she never remembers what I tell her and she gets mad at me anyway. It's very frustrating for me and its very difficult for my brother because she gets extremly mad at him and totally out of control. He said at one time he was afraid she might get violent. Most times my mom is a very sweet, mild woman who is kind to everyone. This new Jeckle-Hyde personality thing is really freaky and we don't know how to deal with it. Please help.