I'm the Caregiver and my Sister wants Mom's Money
Mom has lived with my husband and me for the last 8 years. She has Alzhiemer's. Sis called today and wants $13,500 a year of Mom's savings. I'm aware of the "5 Year Look back for Medicare", so I said no, we can't, as we'll need that to support help for Mom's care, ($2000 mo now so I can keep her at home and a lot more in a nursing home). I have someone here 5 nights a week so I get rest to care for her during the day. She often wanders at night. I've been at my wits end for a while now and I am the ONLY one who has cared for her for EIGHT years. Todays phone call has really pushed me over the edge of sanity. I tried to explain the lookback period and at todays costs, there is enough of Mom's money left for maybe 5 years. She said she already talked to her atty and will be here Wednesday for the money. I'm the only one on Mom's acct with her if that helps. What should I do? Please someone, HELP!