She won't stop complaining. She is in terrible pain can hardly do anything. Brother knows it but wont do much to help. Im sure he isnt making her food. She said the woman who does her laundry and light housekeeping is there righ now making her salmon cakes to eat. That lady shouldnt be there today. Dont know if momcalled her or lady called mom and said she would come over. I said make my brother help you. I know that got nowhere but I am so frustrated with both of them.
I'll go have a cup of tea and try to calm down.
Barbara
Maybe, if you didn't hop to her whims, she'd cut down on her demands. Who knows, though. Seniors are often stubborn and seldom do they change. You can change your reaction to her. I think your reactions are deeply ingrained though.
It sounds like you are overly focused on pleasing her, but from your posts, that is not likely to happen. It's not a perfect world and things are not likely to be perfect or even close to perfect with her situation and your brother. I think I would learn to do what I would consider reasonable and let the rest go. Being hyperfocused on situation you can't control is futile.
From the way you sound, I think a counselor might help with that. I wish you the best.
I'm not familiar with your situation. Have you tried that yet?
Barbara