I evicted my Father over $100. Yay for Texas real estate laws!

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My father who is 81 is a classic NPD (narcissist) as I found out ast month. He crafted his way into my home. When he got here, he told me I was responsible for taking care of him now and threatened that for a month. I knew he wouldn't pay the measly $100 in rent I was charging him because he is a no good lowlife, so I waited until the second month to file the eviction. He has copd and is legally blind although he can see, just can't read. And many people told me the judge would look favorably on him. They were wrong. At least in Texas.

He couldn't help himself, he started digging in with the insults, devaluing, and shaming me, on Day 1. It really gets to a person when it's your parent, who got his trailer foreclosed for failure to pay HOA fees, talking garbage to his child who has over $1 million in equity from a lifetime of careful investing and wise spending habits. It's been 40 years of me never being with him without a witness present. I was so scared because I didn't want to relive any of that and he was trying to make me his permanent guardian and that wasn't the deal. First I needed to test the waters so to speak. I never liked him not even once but I gave him this one last benefit of the doubt. I was cordial but careful throughout my adult life. I wanted my parents to get a divorce when I was a minor. The WHOLE time I was a minor. They got divorced 20 years ago. The reason I had to take quick action is because he was threatening my entire professional future, my plans, etc. If I would have been forced to take care of him, I would lose everything I have so painstakenly saved for all these years. If he had been nice even once, I WOULD have been willing, but no, not ever, not unless it was a strategic self-serving manipulation. I am not the kind of person who would look the other way if an old family member needed help. But he basically dug his own grave.

So don't be scared to take action if you have an abusive family member. You don't have to take it and you shouldn't!


Wow! You go girl! That's quite a story........
I call foul. Knowing all that you know, how was it that he "crafted" his way into your home? 40 years w/o having a witness present and you allowed him to "craft" his way into your home? And still you were willing to give him one last chance? Sorry, I neither feel sympathy or elation for you. And I'm not even sure I believe all the accusations you've made toward your father. If he was that bad why didn't you just sever relations with him?

To me, regardless of how bad a parent is, to allow a blind father into your home then turn around and evict him speaks of a characteristic I can't even find words for now. Nor am I sure he's the abuser in this scenario.

You never should have allowed him to move in in the first place; that would be something to share with others as guidance.

Why didn't you just say "NO" instead of allegedly allowing him to "craft" his way in?

Jane, I do understand that 'one last chance' way of thinking... in some ways, it is to our benefit to make sure we have no regrets. Not so much that he would magically become the dad you never had... I do understand, and I applaud your for doing what you did, doesn't matter how he ended up there, what matters is how you chose to end it....
Thank you for letting others know that there is a way to not be a victim..... I live in Texas... so yay for the court system.... good job !!!! Have a great life with no regrets.
I have to agree with GA on this one I was a victim and the only way to overcome this is to say NO say no and then when all else fails - say no. You see YOU allowed him to craft his way in - he couldn't have done it if you hadn't allowed it. So from a different perspective it seems quite a cruel way to deal with him. Wouldn't have it been better for you to just say NO? that way you take back the power. This way I would feel I had behaved quite badly and that just wouldn't sit well with my code of ethics - my code that is not anyone else's and I do respect you have a right to your own.
Rather than say no, you allowed him into your home, and you got your revenge by evicting him. Sounds like classic passive-aggressive behavior to me.
I told you, I didn't have any experiences with him in 40 years that didn't include a witness. The only abuse that he gives is when there is no witness and it's not just me. It doesn't matter if you think I'm crying foul. This is for people who are in the same situation. You don't have to believe anything I say. How do you think he gets away with all this? It's because of people like you, who challenge the victims. I only just discovered it a month ago The complexity of his game. Before that, I was a minor and I have stayed away from him all these years. If I can help someone with my post, that's what the point is.
I'm pretty sure that when he got the eviction, he took that as a No. It was certainly meant that way. As soon as I discovered the pattern, I filed for eviction. That is a big fat No More
Curious, how long did the courts give him to leave your home? Where did he end up gping? Sometomes you have to do what you have to do, no matter how terrible it may seem. Self preservation on your situation is the utmost importance.
did you at least have the satisfaction of marshals escorting him out or did he leave of his own volition?
and I have a narc moo of mine: if I was better off and not as indolent, she would be sitting home alone or somewhere else. She is not bad, but is a major pain in the ass for the most part. (she definitely is not as bad as she has been)
Jane I understand a bit more now so thank you for that - Im sorry I wouldn't have allowed him into my home though. My abuser came to the house for my father's funeral - he merely placed his hand on my daughter's shoulder and he didn't stay for one second after that - like I told him you take your hand off my daughter's shoulder right now or I will call the police. Even though she was older he wanted to take the control back. He left immediately but he wasn't done. he went out with my mother for about a year and she couldn't understand why I would have none of it - it was only later I found out she knew about him and I and considered it to be in the past! Yeah right! When he was dying he asked to see me. I didnt go. For me that was how I took the power back

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