I moved back a few years ago to assist them with my disabled sister as they were struggling, and did as much as I could until she was taken into care as she had dementia two months ago and is now in a nursing home. For the last few years my life went down the toilet as I helped. Now they want me to stick around but I don't want to, and can't afford to in any case. I'm emigrating to take up work and start a new life abroad, and I will be in a position to send money back to them so they can pay for in home assisted living. I already had this sorted a few months back where a 30 year old nursing student doing her masters was prepared to take accommodation in a part of the house that would have her in a part of the house as a separate apartment with it's own front door so that they would still have their privacy but they refused that. They commented the following day as I made their breakfast that they would find it uncomfortable to have a stranger doing this for them to which I snapped a reply that they found nothing wrong with me being forced to stay with them and having to do it.
I do not really get along with them all that well either. This is the height of selfishness isn't it? Is it not enough that they have care without imposing further upon me and forcing me to remain in a situation that is to my detriment, and is also affecting my daughter's quality of life?